I. Steadfast – vs3 “he shall be like a tree”
He will be faithful
Men can’t be steadfast until they study, and they can’t study until they are separated.
But the man that is separated can study, and the man that studies will be steadfast.
He will be
Grounded – his roots will grow deep in God’s word.
Important part of a tree is the hidden roots
The root system is the roots are as deep as the tree is tall
c. This talks about the character of a man. The character of man is only as deep as his discipline, to be separated, to study and to be faithful.
d. The character of a man is measured by the depth of his actions not the shallowness of his words.
The man that is grounded will have
2. Stability – he can be depended upon
He will also be
3. Goodly – well favored – productive
a. Knowledge
b. Wisdom
c. UnderstandingA man that is feed can feed others
The purpose of a tree is to reproduce itself.
If you stop growing today you stop teaching tomorrow.
Jesus said in Mt.3:10 “every tree which bringeth not forth good fruit, is hewn down and cast into the fire.”
Notice this:
In vs3 “he shall be like a tree”
“shall” – future tensea. Possibility of what you can become
1. You will not start out as a tree, but as a twig
a. a Twig is not faithful, but is unstable
b. But if you stay feed in God’s word, and favored
c. You will one day grow up to be faithful as an oak
2. Abraham when he started out he was
3. Unstable he carried family members with him.
4. But over time he separated himself and became favored by God.
5. God feed him and later he became known as the Father of Faith
Blessed is the man that is Separated, that Studies, that is Steadfast for he will be
II. Successful vs3 “whatsoever he doth shall prosper”
He will be fruitful
“bringeth forth his fruit in his season” – at an appointed time he will be able to rest and enjoy the fruit of his labor.
a. Abraham rested in the birth of Isaac
“his leaf shall not whither” – he will always have something to give
Abraham’s seed produced the Lord Jesus Christ that brings salvation to the entire world.
So you see a favored man will be a feed man, and a feed man will be a faithful man and a faithful man will be a fruitful man.
Conclusion:
Abraham started out as an unstable twig but
God separated him
God feed him
He became the Father of Faith
He became the Father of many nations – and every nation has been blessed because of the seed of Abraham – the Lord Jesus Christ
The Blueprint for a blessed life is to be a blessing to others.
A blessed man is a man that can bless others.
Thursday, September 27, 2007
Blue Print Of A Blessed Life - part two
Here is part two of a three part series on a Blessed life from Travis Baker.
I. Studies – vs2 “his delight is in the law of the Lord, and in his law doth he meditate day and night.”
II Tim.2:15 “Study to show thyself approved unto God”
“study” – diligent
What you enjoy that is what you think about and pursue
What you enjoy is what feeds your soul
One of the reasons I believe we are starving spiritually is because we are feeding ourselves on worldly things that are temporal and expecting that to satisfy an spiritual hunger for God’s word.
The man that studies feeds his soul.
Look at what he is studying; he is studying
Right Message – “the Law of the Lord”
the Bible washes us, cleanses us, purifies us, sanctifies us, and conforms us.
Right Method – “Meditates”
Ps 119:11 “thy word have I hid in mine heart that I might not sin against the Lord.”
He makes it a constant practice to walk by God’s word
Right Manner - “day and night”
If we want to be favored by God then we must feed ourselves upon his word.
The way we treat our bible is the way we treat Christ, because the bible is his word.
Abraham was not only favored by God, but he was also feed by God.
Through his journey across vast deserts and wilderness plains God sustained all his needs.
Blessed is the man that is
I. Studies – vs2 “his delight is in the law of the Lord, and in his law doth he meditate day and night.”
II Tim.2:15 “Study to show thyself approved unto God”
“study” – diligent
What you enjoy that is what you think about and pursue
What you enjoy is what feeds your soul
One of the reasons I believe we are starving spiritually is because we are feeding ourselves on worldly things that are temporal and expecting that to satisfy an spiritual hunger for God’s word.
The man that studies feeds his soul.
Look at what he is studying; he is studying
Right Message – “the Law of the Lord”
the Bible washes us, cleanses us, purifies us, sanctifies us, and conforms us.
Right Method – “Meditates”
Ps 119:11 “thy word have I hid in mine heart that I might not sin against the Lord.”
He makes it a constant practice to walk by God’s word
Right Manner - “day and night”
If we want to be favored by God then we must feed ourselves upon his word.
The way we treat our bible is the way we treat Christ, because the bible is his word.
Abraham was not only favored by God, but he was also feed by God.
Through his journey across vast deserts and wilderness plains God sustained all his needs.
Blessed is the man that is
Blue Print Of A Blessed Life - part one
This is part one of three parts sent in by Travis Baker. May God bless each of you greatly and thank you Bro. Travis for this! Have a great day.
Blueprint for a Blessed Life
Psalms 1:1-3
Intro – A blueprint is a detailed layout of a building that gives a detailed layout of a finished product.
Psalms 1 is a detailed blueprint layout to show us how to build our lives to be favored by God.
vs1 ‘Blessed is the man”
- Blessed – to be favored, happy
Happiness is based on happenings
Joy cometh at all times – storms or sunny you can always have joy
If you want to be happy make something happen.
All of us here want to be blessed, favored and happy, but how can we obtain all three? How can I be blessed by God?
“Blessed is the man that is
I. Separated - vs1 “walketh not, Standeth not, and Sitteth not
God says for us to be a separated people. Most preachers like preaching separation because it gives them a big name. But God wants us to be separated from the world to be made conformable to his image. He wants us to be a holy people.
a. That means we separate ourselves from something, to something.
b. We do not separate ourselves to be pharisaical, but we separate ourselves to be purified by God.
c. Who are we to be separated from?
1. Sinful People vs1
a. Ungodly – those without God
b. Sinners – those that make a habitual practice of sin
c. Scorners – those that mock sin
2. Sinful Practices – vs1
a. Counsel – wisdom of the world
b. Way – socially acceptable
c. Seat – associated with their actions
3. Sinful Progressions – vs1
Sin never stays the same. They started out
Walking – a choice – to do right or wrong – you have a choice to be favored by men or favored by God
Standing - a more settled abode – you begin to accept sin
Sitting – determine in you heart to join them. You become guilty by association.
The reason we must separate ourselves from such wicked acquaintances is because there are three things that influence a person.
Books you read
Places you go
People you hang around
You are either what your friends are or soon will be.
I believe our separation reveals our devotion to God
Our devoutness to God I believe brings us in favor with God.
Who can tell me who the most favored man in the Old Testment was?
Abraham
He was called the friend of God
He was called the friend of God because he separated himself from the Ur of the Chaldees, and separated himself from his family – and because of his separation he was favored by God.
Blueprint for a Blessed Life
Psalms 1:1-3
Intro – A blueprint is a detailed layout of a building that gives a detailed layout of a finished product.
Psalms 1 is a detailed blueprint layout to show us how to build our lives to be favored by God.
vs1 ‘Blessed is the man”
- Blessed – to be favored, happy
Happiness is based on happenings
Joy cometh at all times – storms or sunny you can always have joy
If you want to be happy make something happen.
All of us here want to be blessed, favored and happy, but how can we obtain all three? How can I be blessed by God?
“Blessed is the man that is
I. Separated - vs1 “walketh not, Standeth not, and Sitteth not
God says for us to be a separated people. Most preachers like preaching separation because it gives them a big name. But God wants us to be separated from the world to be made conformable to his image. He wants us to be a holy people.
a. That means we separate ourselves from something, to something.
b. We do not separate ourselves to be pharisaical, but we separate ourselves to be purified by God.
c. Who are we to be separated from?
1. Sinful People vs1
a. Ungodly – those without God
b. Sinners – those that make a habitual practice of sin
c. Scorners – those that mock sin
2. Sinful Practices – vs1
a. Counsel – wisdom of the world
b. Way – socially acceptable
c. Seat – associated with their actions
3. Sinful Progressions – vs1
Sin never stays the same. They started out
Walking – a choice – to do right or wrong – you have a choice to be favored by men or favored by God
Standing - a more settled abode – you begin to accept sin
Sitting – determine in you heart to join them. You become guilty by association.
The reason we must separate ourselves from such wicked acquaintances is because there are three things that influence a person.
Books you read
Places you go
People you hang around
You are either what your friends are or soon will be.
I believe our separation reveals our devotion to God
Our devoutness to God I believe brings us in favor with God.
Who can tell me who the most favored man in the Old Testment was?
Abraham
He was called the friend of God
He was called the friend of God because he separated himself from the Ur of the Chaldees, and separated himself from his family – and because of his separation he was favored by God.
Monday, September 24, 2007
Upcoming Opportunity
If some of you men are in the area, you may want to take part in this ministry opportunity. May God bless you richly.
Hi Bro. Tony,
How's things going? We are doing fine, just need your prayers that we will always stay focus on the Lord. I wanted to ask you to do something for us. Some of us American Missionaries are going to do a Mission Operation for a church (Edward Roads Baptist) in Kannapolis, NC on Oct. 12-13. It will be a all day thing of hanging bags with the church info. and tracks, and then have services both nights with the pastor and who ever will come each night. Will you please send out this info on the deputation tip to see if any other missionary that will be in the area on those dates to come to help. Thanks a lot. If any one needs info. they can call me or e-mail me @ preacherruss@aol.com.
Love in Christ,
Russell Pruitt
Hi Bro. Tony,
How's things going? We are doing fine, just need your prayers that we will always stay focus on the Lord. I wanted to ask you to do something for us. Some of us American Missionaries are going to do a Mission Operation for a church (Edward Roads Baptist) in Kannapolis, NC on Oct. 12-13. It will be a all day thing of hanging bags with the church info. and tracks, and then have services both nights with the pastor and who ever will come each night. Will you please send out this info on the deputation tip to see if any other missionary that will be in the area on those dates to come to help. Thanks a lot. If any one needs info. they can call me or e-mail me @ preacherruss@aol.com.
Love in Christ,
Russell Pruitt
Tuesday, September 18, 2007
An Article On The Pastor And Missions
I came across the following today. As with all articles from other sources take what you can use and leave the rest. There are some good points.
I also want to thank the pastor's for their interest and feedback. It is very encouraging. May God bless all of you greatly as you serve the Lord.
Over the past 60 or 70 years, the work of missions has been left largely to the sending agencies. I am very grateful for those agencies, and I deeply appreciate their labors. The business of missions, however, belongs to local churches. The agencies have ended up performing many tasks by default simply because local churches and pastors have been negligent.
The church in which I was reared was a mission church with a missionary pastor. He understood missions, preached missions, promoted missions, and exposed us to missionaries of many sorts. I grew up loving the work of missions. From the time I was a child, I have wanted to be a missionary, but the Lord has thus far led into other sorts of ministries.
Why would a pastor not want his church to be missions-minded? Why would he not want to expose his congregation to as many of the best missionaries as possible? Why would he not want the church to support missions generously?
Most pastors verbally agree that missions is important. Nevertheless, the zeal for missions has been on the wane for decades. We now have a generation of missionaries who are retiring from the field, and we do not have replacements to send. The missionaries who are sent are often undersupported, sometimes underprepared, and occasionally undersupervised. The responsibility for this situation does not rest with the sending agencies—they are merely service organizations. The responsibility for the future of missions rests with local churches and especially with pastors.
What can and should a pastor do to foster enthusiasm for missions in his congregation? Some churches seem to think that the answer to this question lies in taking large groups of church members—and especially young people—to faraway mission fields. Whether those trips are worthwhile expenditures of the Lord’s resources probably varies from case to case. Pastors, however, can and should find many ways to promote missions that do not require lavish outlays of cash.
First, and most obviously, every pastor should know the missionaries whom his church supports. He should know their names, their families, and their situation in life. He should know where they minister and what special challenges they face.
For a new pastor, getting to know the missionaries takes a while. He may not see all of the church’s missionaries for several years. But he should begin his pastorate with a personal letter to each missionary family, introducing himself and recommitting himself and his congregation to renewed interest in that missionary’s work. Then he should maintain a correspondence with each missionary. In the old days, we had to use international mailers to send letters to foreign countries. Now we can use e-mail. There is no excuse for a pastor not to be in touch with every missionary every couple of months.
Furthermore, the pastor should encourage the church to be contacting the missionaries regularly. At minimum, every prayer letter (whether paper or electronic) ought to receive an answering letter from some member of the congregation. The church should also send bulletins, sermon recordings, and other information about church events to its missionaries. Most missionaries of my acquaintance would love to be praying for their sending churches—only they never hear enough to know how to pray.
At least once each year, the pastor ought to place a telephone call to every missionary. Needless to say, the call should be made at a time that is convenient for the missionary. A voice from home may prove to be very welcome, and a missionary often will discuss issues with a pastor that he does not feel comfortable addressing in a prayer letter.
As easy as travel has become, in most cases a church should send its pastor to visit each of its missionary families in their place of ministry. Most pastors will return from such a trip with renewed missionary vigor, and I know very few missionaries who would not relish a visit from their supporting pastors. Nothing sparks a church’s interest in its missionaries like a pastor who has actually seen what they face.
Churches who have commissioned their own missionaries have special obligations toward those missionaries, but they also have special opportunities. The church will have to help the missionary arrange housing and travel every furlough, but it has a tremendous opportunity to have the missionary minister within the congregation. If possible, the church ought to provide an office for the missionary, who should be treated as a member of the pastoral staff. The missionary’s travel schedule ought to be planned in cooperation with the pastor, and under the pastor’s direction the missionary should actively promote the work of missions within the congregation. The missionary’s activity will include preaching and teaching, but it may also involve other ministries within the church and community. Who better to train a youth group in evangelism than a missionary who is home from the field?
An annual missions conference is traditional in many churches—and the tradition is a good one. But the pulpit should be open to missionary speakers throughout the year. A supported missionary should be given a whole service or even a whole Sunday. Missionaries should know how to preach a sound, expository sermon, but they should also be able to give the congregation a vivid picture of their field and their work. In many churches, the members will learn most of their philosophy of missions from what they hear missionaries say. Therefore, missionaries should not be reluctant to explain why they do things as they do.
In short, missions cannot be an afterthought. The pastor ought to have a vision for where he wants the church’s missions program to go, for how he wants to approach the unique problems of foreign and home missions, and for the church’s involvement in various missionary enterprises. Communicating this vision is part of the pastor’s ongoing ministry in the church. If we do not wish to see missions die, then it is a work each pastor must take seriously.
I also want to thank the pastor's for their interest and feedback. It is very encouraging. May God bless all of you greatly as you serve the Lord.
Over the past 60 or 70 years, the work of missions has been left largely to the sending agencies. I am very grateful for those agencies, and I deeply appreciate their labors. The business of missions, however, belongs to local churches. The agencies have ended up performing many tasks by default simply because local churches and pastors have been negligent.
The church in which I was reared was a mission church with a missionary pastor. He understood missions, preached missions, promoted missions, and exposed us to missionaries of many sorts. I grew up loving the work of missions. From the time I was a child, I have wanted to be a missionary, but the Lord has thus far led into other sorts of ministries.
Why would a pastor not want his church to be missions-minded? Why would he not want to expose his congregation to as many of the best missionaries as possible? Why would he not want the church to support missions generously?
Most pastors verbally agree that missions is important. Nevertheless, the zeal for missions has been on the wane for decades. We now have a generation of missionaries who are retiring from the field, and we do not have replacements to send. The missionaries who are sent are often undersupported, sometimes underprepared, and occasionally undersupervised. The responsibility for this situation does not rest with the sending agencies—they are merely service organizations. The responsibility for the future of missions rests with local churches and especially with pastors.
What can and should a pastor do to foster enthusiasm for missions in his congregation? Some churches seem to think that the answer to this question lies in taking large groups of church members—and especially young people—to faraway mission fields. Whether those trips are worthwhile expenditures of the Lord’s resources probably varies from case to case. Pastors, however, can and should find many ways to promote missions that do not require lavish outlays of cash.
First, and most obviously, every pastor should know the missionaries whom his church supports. He should know their names, their families, and their situation in life. He should know where they minister and what special challenges they face.
For a new pastor, getting to know the missionaries takes a while. He may not see all of the church’s missionaries for several years. But he should begin his pastorate with a personal letter to each missionary family, introducing himself and recommitting himself and his congregation to renewed interest in that missionary’s work. Then he should maintain a correspondence with each missionary. In the old days, we had to use international mailers to send letters to foreign countries. Now we can use e-mail. There is no excuse for a pastor not to be in touch with every missionary every couple of months.
Furthermore, the pastor should encourage the church to be contacting the missionaries regularly. At minimum, every prayer letter (whether paper or electronic) ought to receive an answering letter from some member of the congregation. The church should also send bulletins, sermon recordings, and other information about church events to its missionaries. Most missionaries of my acquaintance would love to be praying for their sending churches—only they never hear enough to know how to pray.
At least once each year, the pastor ought to place a telephone call to every missionary. Needless to say, the call should be made at a time that is convenient for the missionary. A voice from home may prove to be very welcome, and a missionary often will discuss issues with a pastor that he does not feel comfortable addressing in a prayer letter.
As easy as travel has become, in most cases a church should send its pastor to visit each of its missionary families in their place of ministry. Most pastors will return from such a trip with renewed missionary vigor, and I know very few missionaries who would not relish a visit from their supporting pastors. Nothing sparks a church’s interest in its missionaries like a pastor who has actually seen what they face.
Churches who have commissioned their own missionaries have special obligations toward those missionaries, but they also have special opportunities. The church will have to help the missionary arrange housing and travel every furlough, but it has a tremendous opportunity to have the missionary minister within the congregation. If possible, the church ought to provide an office for the missionary, who should be treated as a member of the pastoral staff. The missionary’s travel schedule ought to be planned in cooperation with the pastor, and under the pastor’s direction the missionary should actively promote the work of missions within the congregation. The missionary’s activity will include preaching and teaching, but it may also involve other ministries within the church and community. Who better to train a youth group in evangelism than a missionary who is home from the field?
An annual missions conference is traditional in many churches—and the tradition is a good one. But the pulpit should be open to missionary speakers throughout the year. A supported missionary should be given a whole service or even a whole Sunday. Missionaries should know how to preach a sound, expository sermon, but they should also be able to give the congregation a vivid picture of their field and their work. In many churches, the members will learn most of their philosophy of missions from what they hear missionaries say. Therefore, missionaries should not be reluctant to explain why they do things as they do.
In short, missions cannot be an afterthought. The pastor ought to have a vision for where he wants the church’s missions program to go, for how he wants to approach the unique problems of foreign and home missions, and for the church’s involvement in various missionary enterprises. Communicating this vision is part of the pastor’s ongoing ministry in the church. If we do not wish to see missions die, then it is a work each pastor must take seriously.
Passing Away of Stacey's Grandfather
Please be in prayer for the family of my wife, Stacey. Her grandfather has passed away. The viewing is Tuesday and the funeral is Wednesday. Her grandmother passed away four months ago. I pray the annual conference is going well at
Monday, September 17, 2007
Pastor's Response
The following was a very encouraging response from a pastor who has started getting the blog.
I thank God in heaven for this kind of man. We need to understand that there are some great men of God who are really trying. Let us covenant together to pray for these dear pastors.
Hey Bro,
I hope everything is going well with you, your family ,and the ministry God has placed you in!
Bro Tony,
I signed up for your deputation tips and have been reading them for the past few months. I have found them to be very fascinating, giving me a better understanding of what missionaries have to face and the things that concern them.
I was particularly pricked in my heart with the last email I received titled "pastors question". I plan to implement many of these ideas immediately here at RBC.
Thanks again for your faithful work and encouraging spirit.
Friday, September 14, 2007
Pastor's Question
I received the following from a pastor that reads the blog. I only wish we had more pastor’s that would ask this type of question!
“Here's a question?
As a pastor what are some of the things we can do to encourage a missionary who comes to our church on deputation?”
There are many things that can be said, I will try to high-light a few:
- Remember the meeting.
- Call and let him know that you are excited to have them in your church. Let them know exactly what you want them to do and how long they will have.
- Mail a letter with directions to the church and traveling money. This will be very encouraging considering gas prices.
- Pump up having a missionary in weeks in advance. Hand out information flyers so that your people know their names and family before they get there. You can also include some information about their field on there to familiarize your people.
- Treat the missionary with respect and dignity. Have their names memorized.
- Give the missionary ample time. They should be thankful for anything but having ample time is encouraging.
- Have special prayer with the missionary and his family at the end of the service.
- Have someone take their car and fill it up with gas during the first part of the service.
- Give a generous love offering. To get to your church, eat one meal, and travel back home is the least of your missionaries worries. What about his car payment, insurance, medical bills, rent, gas, electric, internet, etc…. Enable him to be able to pay a bill or two.
- Support him. Not only with money but with love, prayers, phone calls, emails, etc.
These are just a few things. Take an interest in his family and field and you will have encouraged your missionary greatly.
Thank you to all the pastor’s who sacrifice so that missionaries can get to the field. You are a great blessing!
Thursday, September 13, 2007
Ladies Reading List.....A Start
Here is another request I got today.
I would like to ask if you could send out a recommended reading list for us missionary wives.
(The following were recommended to me by a missionaries wife. )
Created to be his helpmeet - Debbi Pearl
A Wife's Purpose - Cindy Schaap
Becoming a Woman of Influence - Carol Kent
Life, as Viewed from the Goldfish Bowl - Beverly Hyles
Train up a Child - Mike and Debbi Pearl
Cat and Dog Theology - Gerald Robison
A woman after God's own heart - Elizabeth George
Training kings and Queens - Cindy Schaap
If you have a book that has been a blessing to you, please let me know and I will put it on the list. May I also say, ladies, do not be afraid to read mission related materials. Things that deal with ministering cross culturally, culture shock, language learning, etc... As you read, you grow; as you grow, you will be able to better help your husband minister.
God bless you all greatly
I would like to ask if you could send out a recommended reading list for us missionary wives.
(The following were recommended to me by a missionaries wife. )
Created to be his helpmeet - Debbi Pearl
A Wife's Purpose - Cindy Schaap
Becoming a Woman of Influence - Carol Kent
Life, as Viewed from the Goldfish Bowl - Beverly Hyles
Train up a Child - Mike and Debbi Pearl
Cat and Dog Theology - Gerald Robison
A woman after God's own heart - Elizabeth George
Training kings and Queens - Cindy Schaap
If you have a book that has been a blessing to you, please let me know and I will put it on the list. May I also say, ladies, do not be afraid to read mission related materials. Things that deal with ministering cross culturally, culture shock, language learning, etc... As you read, you grow; as you grow, you will be able to better help your husband minister.
God bless you all greatly
When Promised Support Does Not Come In
The following question was sent this morning by a fellow missionary.
What do you do when a pastor says the church will support you and after a few months hasn't?
I would recommend that you send the pastor a post card (not letter, they get too many of those and it may get lost) thanking him for the opportunity to be in the church, the wonderful service you had and also for partnering with you to get to the field. As you are about to leave you want him to know that support can be sent to Macedonia World Baptist Mission with your name and account number on it. Make it very positive and be very thankful for them. Go at it with the attitude that it was an over sight and not intentional. One of the worst enemies of a missionary is a bad attitude; keep your good one! With this, you are just lovingly putting a little reminder out there.
This is just one way of handling this. I will warn you that a complaint I get is that missionaries can be rude and pushy with getting meetings and support. Be careful, loving, and Spirit filled.
Some say to call the pastor. I have had a few pastor's say they would want a call. The pastor that would want you to call them and let them know you are not getting support are few and far between. Most of the time it will blow up in your face because the pastor thinks you think he is a liar, does not care about missions and he is embarrassed. If you call him, being careful would be an understatement.
May God bless you as you serve Him.
What do you do when a pastor says the church will support you and after a few months hasn't?
I would recommend that you send the pastor a post card (not letter, they get too many of those and it may get lost) thanking him for the opportunity to be in the church, the wonderful service you had and also for partnering with you to get to the field. As you are about to leave you want him to know that support can be sent to Macedonia World Baptist Mission with your name and account number on it. Make it very positive and be very thankful for them. Go at it with the attitude that it was an over sight and not intentional. One of the worst enemies of a missionary is a bad attitude; keep your good one! With this, you are just lovingly putting a little reminder out there.
This is just one way of handling this. I will warn you that a complaint I get is that missionaries can be rude and pushy with getting meetings and support. Be careful, loving, and Spirit filled.
Some say to call the pastor. I have had a few pastor's say they would want a call. The pastor that would want you to call them and let them know you are not getting support are few and far between. Most of the time it will blow up in your face because the pastor thinks you think he is a liar, does not care about missions and he is embarrassed. If you call him, being careful would be an understatement.
May God bless you as you serve Him.
Wednesday, September 12, 2007
Do I Let My Children Go To Other Services?
I am so thankful for the response gotten from the blog. Your questions is what helps it remain relevant. Today I Will try to answer one that may be a bit touchy to some.
Do you send the children to Sunday School and Children's church both or do you keep them out for church service? If you are not sure of the church standards and teachings do you send your children to a children's church or Wednesday night masters club or something like that? I feel bad not letting my children go but I am not sure what they are being taught either.
If your children are old enough to go to Sunday School, Children's Church or the mid-week program, I would recommend letting them go. I say this for several reasons. I have met missionary children that do not meet other people well. If they do not meet people well while on deputation, then they will not do well when you start your own church away from everyone you know. Deputation is not only a great time of training for mom and dad, but the children as well. In all of our lives to grow, we go through uncomfortable times. Your child may be used to being around you so the when they have to go to Master Clubs they start crying. Dry the tears, love them and send them on. After church talk with them. The next time won't be quite so difficult. (for them or you!)
As far as not trusting what they teach, if you are going in like faith churches, that should not be a problem. There are always exceptions. So we talk with them after the services, find out what they learned, and if it is wrong we teach them.
In my family, my children loved the mid-week program but were uncomfortable at times going into Sunday School. They loved children's church. I found that the long miles, many meetings, and their dad preaching all the time made them start enjoying a little time apart in the different programs the church offered. It hurt my feeling too but you may find your children enjoying being away from you, with other children and not listening to dad preach "the same message again"!!
I pray this helps some. If you have further questions, please email me at howeth@mwbm.org
God bless and have a great day.
Do you send the children to Sunday School and Children's church both or do you keep them out for church service? If you are not sure of the church standards and teachings do you send your children to a children's church or Wednesday night masters club or something like that? I feel bad not letting my children go but I am not sure what they are being taught either.
If your children are old enough to go to Sunday School, Children's Church or the mid-week program, I would recommend letting them go. I say this for several reasons. I have met missionary children that do not meet other people well. If they do not meet people well while on deputation, then they will not do well when you start your own church away from everyone you know. Deputation is not only a great time of training for mom and dad, but the children as well. In all of our lives to grow, we go through uncomfortable times. Your child may be used to being around you so the when they have to go to Master Clubs they start crying. Dry the tears, love them and send them on. After church talk with them. The next time won't be quite so difficult. (for them or you!)
As far as not trusting what they teach, if you are going in like faith churches, that should not be a problem. There are always exceptions. So we talk with them after the services, find out what they learned, and if it is wrong we teach them.
In my family, my children loved the mid-week program but were uncomfortable at times going into Sunday School. They loved children's church. I found that the long miles, many meetings, and their dad preaching all the time made them start enjoying a little time apart in the different programs the church offered. It hurt my feeling too but you may find your children enjoying being away from you, with other children and not listening to dad preach "the same message again"!!
I pray this helps some. If you have further questions, please email me at howeth@mwbm.org
God bless and have a great day.
Tuesday, September 11, 2007
Spirituality and Sick Children
Continuing with questions from our "wives of deputation", here goes!
In regards to the first question (see blog for Monday, Sept 10th), how do you keep spiritually strong when you have been out of church for a whole week. I don't think I have ever in my life been out all week long from church even when I had my children. I was at church even if I felt tired and it always seem to be a blessing there at church.
First, I am excited to hear of your faithfulness to the house of God. May your tribe be increased!
Secondly church is a help to our spiritual life but it is not our spiritual life. Your question is one of the most important ones that missionaries and people in ministry need to really get a hold of. Right now is great preparation for when you get to your field. When you start a church, who is going to show up? will there be Sunday school classes? do you really listen to your husband when he preaches? We must all learn how to daily walk with God so that if church were never available we still have a spiritual walk. Some things recommended.
1. Have a time before the children stir that you can read your Bible. My wife is up at 5 am to get ready and have her personal devotions before the children are gotten up.
2. Do not just pick at random scripture to read. Systematically go through your Bible.
3. Take notes on what you have read and what it means to your life. Basic questions to answer are, What does this scripture mean, How does it apply to my life, What I do not understand.
4. Talk it over with your husband. If he does not know the answer he will find it.
5. Have an accountability partner. This morning, I sent my devotions to a friend and he sent me his. If you do not get their devotions after two days, just call them. Not with condemnation but compassion. Love them and see what is going on.
We must learn to be self feeders. Learning how to personally get something from God's Word is not something for a preacher but for a child of God. Learn how to walk with God.
This was an incredible question. More could be said. I pray this helps for now.
In regards to the first question (see blog for Monday, Sept 10th), how do you keep spiritually strong when you have been out of church for a whole week. I don't think I have ever in my life been out all week long from church even when I had my children. I was at church even if I felt tired and it always seem to be a blessing there at church.
First, I am excited to hear of your faithfulness to the house of God. May your tribe be increased!
Secondly church is a help to our spiritual life but it is not our spiritual life. Your question is one of the most important ones that missionaries and people in ministry need to really get a hold of. Right now is great preparation for when you get to your field. When you start a church, who is going to show up? will there be Sunday school classes? do you really listen to your husband when he preaches? We must all learn how to daily walk with God so that if church were never available we still have a spiritual walk. Some things recommended.
1. Have a time before the children stir that you can read your Bible. My wife is up at 5 am to get ready and have her personal devotions before the children are gotten up.
2. Do not just pick at random scripture to read. Systematically go through your Bible.
3. Take notes on what you have read and what it means to your life. Basic questions to answer are, What does this scripture mean, How does it apply to my life, What I do not understand.
4. Talk it over with your husband. If he does not know the answer he will find it.
5. Have an accountability partner. This morning, I sent my devotions to a friend and he sent me his. If you do not get their devotions after two days, just call them. Not with condemnation but compassion. Love them and see what is going on.
We must learn to be self feeders. Learning how to personally get something from God's Word is not something for a preacher but for a child of God. Learn how to walk with God.
This was an incredible question. More could be said. I pray this helps for now.
Article on Motivation
There are some good points to consider in this article. As you go through it, make note of changes and additions you personally need to make. Have a blessed day.
Inspiration - How much does it matter if someone is motivated?Huge - 87% less likely to leave if motivated, less sick days, less health problems, less wasted hours, etc.
2) Whose job is it to keep me (as a leader) motivated? ME! How?a) Be Crystal clear on God's calling on my life - Seek God's voice regularly!b) Leverage my spiritual gifts in the way and at the level that God gave them to me.c) Make sure that team players are motivating and inspiring people or remove them.d) The books I read.e) Make a point to rub shoulders with EXCEPTIONALLY inspiring people occasionally.f) Participate in events that are EXCEPTIONALLY inspiring to me. g) Paying attention to my physical disciplines! (exercise, healthy eating, etc)h) Pay attention to my working environment - decorate my surrounding work space to lift my spirits!i) Having an inspiring recreation outside my work world. (Colin Powell fooled around with old Volvo's, Hybels boats, Pat races) j) Practicing daily spiritual disciplines that keep my faith fresh.
3) What is the best way to motivate those around me?a) Live a motivated life in front of them!! (see above - be a force multiplier!!)b) Connect everyone you lead to a compelling cause! Convince them that they are doing something valuable that is connected to the greater vision!c) Learn the inspiration language of everyone on your team and then speak it! People want to be inspired in different ways - it is inconvenient, but it is important!d) Identify and reduce every demotivating dynamic we possibly can! Frederick Herzberg researched - even highly motivated employees will leave an organization if the demotivating factors are not worked out. Sometimes we expect the calling of God to rise above the demotivators and messes at churches - it won't work! (benefits, office space, environment, lack of funds, etc.) e) Celebrate every sign of progress toward your teams shared goals! Set goals that are achievable on a frequent basis that lead to the "big" goal. 4) What would the church look like if EVERY member were inspired?a) Acts 2:42, the members were devoted (inspired, pumped up, motivated). Everyone was filled with a sense of awe! signs and wonders! People were so motivated and inspired that they began giving to the poor in unprecedented levels, they began to radically accept and receive one another, people all around the city were so astounded by what was happening at the church they were in awe. people were coming to Christ daily! The church lived out the dream of Jesus Christ! There can be and should be churches like this again! It is these kinds of communities that God is asking us to lead - why did God give you a leadership gift? To lead people into this kind of community.
For the glory of Christ and no other reason,
Inspiration - How much does it matter if someone is motivated?Huge - 87% less likely to leave if motivated, less sick days, less health problems, less wasted hours, etc.
2) Whose job is it to keep me (as a leader) motivated? ME! How?a) Be Crystal clear on God's calling on my life - Seek God's voice regularly!b) Leverage my spiritual gifts in the way and at the level that God gave them to me.c) Make sure that team players are motivating and inspiring people or remove them.d) The books I read.e) Make a point to rub shoulders with EXCEPTIONALLY inspiring people occasionally.f) Participate in events that are EXCEPTIONALLY inspiring to me. g) Paying attention to my physical disciplines! (exercise, healthy eating, etc)h) Pay attention to my working environment - decorate my surrounding work space to lift my spirits!i) Having an inspiring recreation outside my work world. (Colin Powell fooled around with old Volvo's, Hybels boats, Pat races) j) Practicing daily spiritual disciplines that keep my faith fresh.
3) What is the best way to motivate those around me?a) Live a motivated life in front of them!! (see above - be a force multiplier!!)b) Connect everyone you lead to a compelling cause! Convince them that they are doing something valuable that is connected to the greater vision!c) Learn the inspiration language of everyone on your team and then speak it! People want to be inspired in different ways - it is inconvenient, but it is important!d) Identify and reduce every demotivating dynamic we possibly can! Frederick Herzberg researched - even highly motivated employees will leave an organization if the demotivating factors are not worked out. Sometimes we expect the calling of God to rise above the demotivators and messes at churches - it won't work! (benefits, office space, environment, lack of funds, etc.) e) Celebrate every sign of progress toward your teams shared goals! Set goals that are achievable on a frequent basis that lead to the "big" goal. 4) What would the church look like if EVERY member were inspired?a) Acts 2:42, the members were devoted (inspired, pumped up, motivated). Everyone was filled with a sense of awe! signs and wonders! People were so motivated and inspired that they began giving to the poor in unprecedented levels, they began to radically accept and receive one another, people all around the city were so astounded by what was happening at the church they were in awe. people were coming to Christ daily! The church lived out the dream of Jesus Christ! There can be and should be churches like this again! It is these kinds of communities that God is asking us to lead - why did God give you a leadership gift? To lead people into this kind of community.
For the glory of Christ and no other reason,
Monday, September 10, 2007
The Female Perspective
I know that many times the things written in this blog are directed to the man. Over the next few days I would like to address some of the difficulties for the wife on deputation. The following question came from Christy Short, missionary wife to Wisconsin.
1. I have heard that most churches like to meet the whole family. Does it hurt if not all of the family can come because of sickness? Does it affect the support? I hate staying at home when I really need to be with my husband but I also have sick children. I have actually had my parents watch the kids just to be with Aaron but I hate imposing on them too. It seems that we have been sick a lot these past few weeks. We are finally all better except for colds.
The whole family not being in church hurts you unless it is for the right reason. Being lazy, tired, and unspiritual are not the right reasons; being sick is. If your husband lets the pastor know that you are home because of a sick child, it will not hurt your chances of support. Now make sure that the ones that stay home are sick. Healthy children staying home because one of their siblings is sick would not be recommended. Your husband can take the other children to church. It will actually help him for the church to see him as a preacher, missionary and father. Husband's may not like the idea, but it will do them good!
As far as your parents go, praise God for them. If they can help at times, wonderful. The likelihood of you being around where they can watch them because of sickness will become less and less as you travel away from home. So burnout is unlikely.
Something Stacey was militant about was taking hand sanitizer into the churches and after "hand-shaking" she would very privately pass it down the row and we would all use it. That would not be a bad idea for you guys, especially how many churches you will be in, people you will meet and hands you will shake!
Thanks for the question. If you would like further discussion, please just let me know.
Friday, September 7, 2007
John Wesley's Holy Club
Here are 22 Questions asked each day by members of John Wesley’s Holy Club in their private devotions. One of the greatest things needed on deputation is God's power on your life as you go behind the pulpit. I found these questions challenging and pray that God would use them in your heart as well.
1. Am I consciously or unconsciously creating the impression that
I am a better person than I really am? In other words, am I a
hypocrite?
2. Am I honest in all my acts and words, or do I exaggerate?
3. Do I confidentially pass on what was told to me in confidence?
4. Can I be trusted?
5. Am I a slave to dress, friends, work, or habit?
6. Am I self-conscious, self-pitying, or self-justifying?
7. Did the Bible live in me today?
8. Do I give God time to speak to me everyday?
9. Am I enjoying prayer?
10. When did I last speak to someone else about my faith?
11. Do I pray about the money I spend?
12. Do I get to bed on time and get up on time?
13. Do I disobey God in anything?
14. Do I insist in doing something in which my conscience is
uneasy?
15. Am I defeated in any part of my life?
16. Am I jealous, impure, irritable, touchy, or distrustful?
17. How do I spend my spare time?
18. Am I proud?
19. Do I thank God I am not as other people, especially as the
Pharisees who despised the publican?
20. Is there anyone I fear, dislike, criticize, or resent? If so,
what am I doing about it?
21. Do I grumble and complain constantly?
22. Is Christ real to me today?
After reading through these I will meet you in the prayer closet.
May God use you greatly this weekend.
1. Am I consciously or unconsciously creating the impression that
I am a better person than I really am? In other words, am I a
hypocrite?
2. Am I honest in all my acts and words, or do I exaggerate?
3. Do I confidentially pass on what was told to me in confidence?
4. Can I be trusted?
5. Am I a slave to dress, friends, work, or habit?
6. Am I self-conscious, self-pitying, or self-justifying?
7. Did the Bible live in me today?
8. Do I give God time to speak to me everyday?
9. Am I enjoying prayer?
10. When did I last speak to someone else about my faith?
11. Do I pray about the money I spend?
12. Do I get to bed on time and get up on time?
13. Do I disobey God in anything?
14. Do I insist in doing something in which my conscience is
uneasy?
15. Am I defeated in any part of my life?
16. Am I jealous, impure, irritable, touchy, or distrustful?
17. How do I spend my spare time?
18. Am I proud?
19. Do I thank God I am not as other people, especially as the
Pharisees who despised the publican?
20. Is there anyone I fear, dislike, criticize, or resent? If so,
what am I doing about it?
21. Do I grumble and complain constantly?
22. Is Christ real to me today?
After reading through these I will meet you in the prayer closet.
May God use you greatly this weekend.
Thursday, September 6, 2007
New Births
Let me ask you to pray for the following families as they have had little blessing sent their way!
Robert and Sara Stover - missionaries to Peru - little boy - Josiah Andrew Stover
6lbs 8ozs
Jason and Heather Lowe - missionaries to Bahamas - little boy - Ethan wayne Lowe
7lbs 0ozs - 19.5 inches long
Congratulations to these dear families. May God raise up these young men to bring Him much honor and glory!
Robert and Sara Stover - missionaries to Peru - little boy - Josiah Andrew Stover
6lbs 8ozs
Jason and Heather Lowe - missionaries to Bahamas - little boy - Ethan wayne Lowe
7lbs 0ozs - 19.5 inches long
Congratulations to these dear families. May God raise up these young men to bring Him much honor and glory!
Winston Churchill
I was speaking with a a friend of mine, John Pearson, and in the course of the conversation he gave me this quote.
"Some days your best is not enough; you have to do what it takes"
-Winston Churchill
That has to be one of the most powerful statements I have heard in a long time.
Deputation is a time of establishing relationships. 2John 1:12 "Having many things to write unto you, I would not write with paper and ink: but I trust to come unto you, and speak face to face, that our joy may be full."
You have many forms of written communication that is very effective but nothing ever beats a face to face conversation. So when you set up meetings today, just remember this verse. When you are tired and do not want to go out with the pastor, remember this verse. Come to think of it, if you remember this verse, then the pastor and church may remember you!
Establish relationships. Go beyond your ability, and by God's grace, do what it takes. The end result was that their joy would be full.
Have a great day.
"Some days your best is not enough; you have to do what it takes"
-Winston Churchill
That has to be one of the most powerful statements I have heard in a long time.
Deputation is a time of establishing relationships. 2John 1:12 "Having many things to write unto you, I would not write with paper and ink: but I trust to come unto you, and speak face to face, that our joy may be full."
You have many forms of written communication that is very effective but nothing ever beats a face to face conversation. So when you set up meetings today, just remember this verse. When you are tired and do not want to go out with the pastor, remember this verse. Come to think of it, if you remember this verse, then the pastor and church may remember you!
Establish relationships. Go beyond your ability, and by God's grace, do what it takes. The end result was that their joy would be full.
Have a great day.
From Aaron Short
I praise God for the response to this blog. It seems to pick up speed daily. Your insight and ideas are desired and appreciated. The following is from Aaron Short missionary to Wisconsin. His nickname is "cheesehead" but do not let that fool you. He is getting the job done, working hard and is very teachable. Just wanted to pass this along.
May God greatly bless you today.
Deputation tips from 9-4, Psalm 20:7-9 You were talking about trusting God and not doing nothing, is really not trusting God. This brought to mind a verse in Job 13:15 Though he slay me, yet will I trust in him: but I will maitain mine own ways before him. Thank you for the tips Brother Tony. May God bless you and your family.
Reaching Wisconsin for Christ,
Bro. Cheesehead
May God greatly bless you today.
Deputation tips from 9-4, Psalm 20:7-9 You were talking about trusting God and not doing nothing, is really not trusting God. This brought to mind a verse in Job 13:15 Though he slay me, yet will I trust in him: but I will maitain mine own ways before him. Thank you for the tips Brother Tony. May God bless you and your family.
Reaching Wisconsin for Christ,
Bro. Cheesehead
Wednesday, September 5, 2007
From Chris McBryar
The following is a quote Chris McBryar sent me. Very challenging thoughts for us in the ministry. Thank you Bro. Chris for sending this.
"We need a generation of preachers who seek God and seek him early, who give the freshness and dew of effort to God, and secure in return the freshness and fullness of his power that he may be as the dew to them, full of gladness and strength, through all the heat and labor of the day. Our laziness after God is our crying sin. The children of this world are far wiser than we. They are at it early and late. We do not seek God with ardor and diligence. No man gets God who does not follow hard after him, and no soul follows hard after God who is not after him in early morn." - E. M. Bounds
"We need a generation of preachers who seek God and seek him early, who give the freshness and dew of effort to God, and secure in return the freshness and fullness of his power that he may be as the dew to them, full of gladness and strength, through all the heat and labor of the day. Our laziness after God is our crying sin. The children of this world are far wiser than we. They are at it early and late. We do not seek God with ardor and diligence. No man gets God who does not follow hard after him, and no soul follows hard after God who is not after him in early morn." - E. M. Bounds
Lover of Good Men
In the qualifications of a Bishop, Titus 1:8 says, "But a lover of hospitality, a lover of good men, sober, just, holy, temperate;"
A lover of good men. In the midst of being holy, sober, not losing my temper, I am to be a lover of good men. Think of the people and pastors that we come in contact with daily. Would they say that we care about them? That we love them? That they really matter to us? I pray that in the midst of raising support and getting to the field that you do not lose sight of people. Take some time out today and just encourage someone. Put others before yourself. Pray for them. Try to understand them. Show them the love that Christ has shown you. I just wonder what might happen if missionaries, when entering so many churches, became known as lovers of good men.
While the phone is ringing and you are waiting to talk with the pastor, may the truth flow through your soul that we are to be lovers of good men. (and don't tell me you were justified in not loving them because they were not good according to your definition!)
Have a great day gentlemen.
A lover of good men. In the midst of being holy, sober, not losing my temper, I am to be a lover of good men. Think of the people and pastors that we come in contact with daily. Would they say that we care about them? That we love them? That they really matter to us? I pray that in the midst of raising support and getting to the field that you do not lose sight of people. Take some time out today and just encourage someone. Put others before yourself. Pray for them. Try to understand them. Show them the love that Christ has shown you. I just wonder what might happen if missionaries, when entering so many churches, became known as lovers of good men.
While the phone is ringing and you are waiting to talk with the pastor, may the truth flow through your soul that we are to be lovers of good men. (and don't tell me you were justified in not loving them because they were not good according to your definition!)
Have a great day gentlemen.
Tuesday, September 4, 2007
Our Trust
"Some trust in chariots, and some in horses: but we will remember the name of the Lord our God. They are brought down and fallen: but we are risen, and stand upright. Save, Lord: let the king hear us when we call." Psalm 20:7-9
How my heart was refreshed and refocused with these verses this morning. Many on deputation put their trust in the wrong things. All the "chariots and horses" you may have at your disposal will never amount to what God in heaven can do. Learn, yet have no confidence in your learning. Practice your delivery, but do not trust your smoothness. Do all that you can yet remember it is God that is in control and our trust is to be in Him in all things. I started laughing when I read verse nine, "Save, Lord: let the king (pastor) hear us when we call." Trust God even when it comes to calling pastors to set up meetings!
Lessons -
1. Trusting in God does not mean I do nothing.
2. Doing nothing does not mean I am trusting in God.
3. As I am doing what I can I must ask myself, "Do I have greater confidence in my abilities or God?"
4. Where does my trust really lie today?
5. What changes do I need to make.
God bless each of you. May God use you greatly and open many doors for you.
How my heart was refreshed and refocused with these verses this morning. Many on deputation put their trust in the wrong things. All the "chariots and horses" you may have at your disposal will never amount to what God in heaven can do. Learn, yet have no confidence in your learning. Practice your delivery, but do not trust your smoothness. Do all that you can yet remember it is God that is in control and our trust is to be in Him in all things. I started laughing when I read verse nine, "Save, Lord: let the king (pastor) hear us when we call." Trust God even when it comes to calling pastors to set up meetings!
Lessons -
1. Trusting in God does not mean I do nothing.
2. Doing nothing does not mean I am trusting in God.
3. As I am doing what I can I must ask myself, "Do I have greater confidence in my abilities or God?"
4. Where does my trust really lie today?
5. What changes do I need to make.
God bless each of you. May God use you greatly and open many doors for you.
Saturday, September 1, 2007
Prayer Request
I know many of you are heading or will be heading toward churches for tomorrow. I pray that God will give you great power as you stand before God's people. Please be conscious of the things written on presenting your burden lately. Take seriously the task that is before you.
On a personal note, please pray for my wife's grandfather. He is 95, fell and fractured his hip earlier this week, had surgery and last night had a heart attack. Please pray for the family. It would be our loss yet almost a relief for him to go on to heaven. He is saved, amen!!
Again, may God bless each of you this weekend.
On a personal note, please pray for my wife's grandfather. He is 95, fell and fractured his hip earlier this week, had surgery and last night had a heart attack. Please pray for the family. It would be our loss yet almost a relief for him to go on to heaven. He is saved, amen!!
Again, may God bless each of you this weekend.
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